In today’s episode, we tackle all the ways that pretending can hurt you, and why so many of us crave the ability to show up more authentically.

Pretending to be different than you are creates so much internal stress that it alters your body language and signals your deceit to the people around you. You feel “off” to both them and to you.

Pretending not only feels terrible, but it cuts off your ability to connect in deep and meaningful ways with other human beings and, even worse, with yourself.

Pretending constrains your choices and inhibits your creativity.

The irony is that we usually pretend when we believe this will create a better outcome. In fact, the opposite is true. Our best results typically occur when we show up truthfully and authentically as ourselves.


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By the end of the Magic Room Experience, your life will feel richer, more expansive and full of possibility, and you’ll be actively creating the life you want. For more details or to apply for the Magic Room Experience, send me an email request with “I’d like more information about the Magic Room Experience” in the subject line to

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I’m a former international tax lawyer and senior partner of Ernst & Young in Toronto, where I serviced banks and other large multinationals and led a large group of professionals.

My life expanded when I left the law in 2014 to learn how to paint, something I’d always dreamt of doing, but had no reason to believe was possible for me. After a couple years of painting and selling my work, I became passionate about helping other people who yearn to feel more personally fulfilled, invigorated and soul connected in their lives every day, and I became certified as a life coach.

I now spend my time painting, coaching, and creating live events at GRACE Studio (more formally, the “George Russell Academy of Creative Expansion”) in beautiful Prince Edward County, Ontario, Canada. And, of course, producing this podcast for you.